Re: Plants are like people

I grew up with different kinds of plants in our family’s house, backyard and front yard. Some plants were flowers, others were edible and a few were decorative (for the lack of a better word). My mom enjoyed planting different kinds of fruits, vegetables and herbs, and she was really good at it. We used to spend a lot of time jarring tomatoes or freezing them at the end of the hot days of summer. Living on my own, I only just started to appreciate the joy I get watching my plants grow week after week. And yes, I do talk to them! A benefit COVID-19 brought us this year, I guess? 

Each plant species has its own optimal conditions to flourish. Some prefer shade, some like humid temperatures, while others enjoy consistent watering. Now, I have to admit that I’ve definitely killed a couple of succulents and one cactus because of overwatering. Thankfully, the internet has a plethora of gardening websites that continuously warns us from overwatering – the common plant executioner if you will. Another thing that overwatering seemed to attract are fungus flies/gnats. They thrive in consistently moistened soils and could breed hundreds, infecting sprouts and smaller plants. All of that reminds me of how similar plants are to people. This is not a new concept, and I’m sure someone else has written about this similarity more eloquently before. Although, the aspect that got my attention was how much our plants’ environment, our environment affects not just our growth but more importantly our roots. 

The integrity and strength of a virtuous wife transforms her husband into an honoured king. But the wife who disgraces her husband weakens the strength of his identity.

Proverbs 12:4 (Passions Translation)

After reading the book of Daniel, this proverb kept coming to mind. Daniel and his friends remained faithful to the God of their forefathers despite the long exile in Babylon. They didn’t succumb to the pressures of conforming to their oppressor’s beliefs and way of life. Steadfast and in joyful obedience. Life wasn’t picture perfect, being thrown in a lion’s den and in an earthly inferno could push someone over the edge, but they remained unshaken. Their friendship and faithfulness helped them remain true to their identity – their roots. The proverb specifically mentions a wife, but I imagine we can broaden this to the person or people we spend the most time with. After all, our environment doesn’t just consist of space but people too. 

Over the years I’ve had to re-evaluate friendships I was making versus those I’d like to sustain. Are we cultivating our internal gardens with friends that reflect/support our Christ centred values and welcoming dialogue from diverse perspectives? Or do we seek friendships for approval and validation? The proverb warns us to choose wisely. And truth be told, it’s not easy to make wise decisions when we are craving attention and acceptance. We want to fill the void – feel loved. But the choice does get easier when we allow our hearts to see that the only person that could ever fill that void already loves us unconditionally. God loves us in our worst with fungus gnats flying all around, and he continues to love us as we bloom into the unique flower he designed us to be.

Unlike plants we have the choice to create an environment to live in. We have the privilege to grow intentionally, not passively. We can intervene in the kind of fruits we produce. Question is – What are you rooted in? What are the fruits of your choices?

Always, 

K

P.S. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:5 (NIV translation)

Dear strangers on the subway

Going home from work, I tend to grab a newspaper or find a reading material to keep me distracted until my stop. Sitting across 3 strangers, I found myself interested to listen in their conversation. I know what you’re going to say, and yes it’s not necessarily something I do often. Besides, I’m sure you’ve unintentionally listened in a conversation or to while commuting before!

Mattew Wiebe - Unsplash.jpeg
From unsplash.com – Mattew Wiebe
Anyway, their conversation started with a little small talk. You know, the usual, “how have you been?” and “so, what are you up to now?” They all responded quite candidly yet a little constrained. Of course, we wouldn’t necessarily spill all of our dirty laundry to an old friend we kinda knew and kinda hung out with in high school. Nonetheless, one of them asked an unexpected question. She asked, “and your mental health? Are you ok?” This was the exact moment that got my attention. I briefly shifted my eyes from the page of the newspaper I was reading and glanced at them. Pretending to not listen to their conversation (because you should even though you are listening), I heard her friend reply that he was okay. She replied by openly saying that she has been seeing a counselor the past few months. She didn’t give a specific reason for going or at least I didn’t hear it. Her friend was very supportive and expressed his own experiences with going to a counselor and maintaining good mental health.

After hearing the positive response that she got from a friend she just randomly ran into on the subway, I bent my head down with a soft smile on my face and continued to read my newspaper. Experiencing anxiety from time to time, it wasn’t something that I openly disclosed to my close group of friends until recently. I feel very lucky to have a supportive group of friends, reminding me to think twice about the negative thoughts I might be having. They have taught me the value of mindfulness and practicing mindful meditations when I’m feeling bogged down.

 

Show compassion to others and yourself.

 

 

 

Always,

K